Once, I heard a therapist say that children compare their private
lives to the public lives of their peers and so believe that
“everyone” is doing it. This weekend I read an article about the
“meta-bias” rooted in our ability to spot the mistakes of others
and our inability to spot those same mistakes in ourselves. New Agers
talk about resonating to the music of others; Old Wives say that what
Peter says about Paul says more about Peter than it says about Paul.
Today, after listening, I notice that self-indulgent wordiness
irritates me . . . and I cringe.